30 Days to Inspiration : Judge Not

March is celebrated as Spiritual Wellness Month. It is a time to reflect on the values, ethics and morals that add value and give meaning to your life. Here at diGJamaica, we’re going on a quest for 30 days of inspiration: extracting the common principles from different religions and systems of belief that help their followers to find inner peace, purpose and direction. Each day for the month of March, we will be sharing another principle with you. Join us as we embark on this journey to spiritual wellness.

What we’ve covered so far:

Judge Not

It can be so easy sometimes to come to a conclusion about something without having any real information about it. It is even easier to do the same with people. We often form opinions about others based on insufficient information or one-sided ways of looking at things. And these opinions are often severe, prejudicial and/or presumptuous. Whether we realise it or not, forming unfair and unbalanced opinions of others negatively affects us. We end up believing things about people that are not true, and sometimes rob ourselves of good relationships and experiences because of the terrible ways in which we judge things and persons. Here are some suggestions to help you be less judgemental:

  1. Be neutral. Instead of expressing a negative opinion of a person or situation, try to be neutral and use a tone that will convey your feelings without harming, offending or disrespecting anyone.
  2. Stand in their shoes. Sometimes we forget to be sympathetic to the other very faulty human beings around us. And we forget that we’re very faulty humans too. Don’t fall into that trap. Try to see things from another person’s perspective before you write them off or dismiss them.
  3. Get out of your feelings. Especially in high-stress situations, allow yourself a moment to defuse before you go off on another individual. Step back from your anger or frustration, and ensure that what you are communicating is coming from a well-reasoned, balanced place, instead of just venting and ’emotionally vomiting’ on another person.
  4. Find out more. There are more than one sides to any story, and there are many pieces to a puzzle. Don’t presume to know everything. Ask questions. Get more information. It may just change your perspective and feelings on the issue.
  5. Stay quiet. When you don’t know, don’t pretend to know. Don’t offer an opinion on a person or situation with which you are not at all familiar. Avoid gossip. Sometimes, your best bet is to zip it and leave well enough alone.